This morning as I read through the Word of God I stumbled upon a passage that I had to share.
“In the same way, you husbands must give honor to your wives. Treat her with understanding as you live together. She may be weaker than you are, but she is your equal partner in God’s gift of new life. If you don’t treat her as you should, your prayers will not be heard” (1 Peter 3:7; NLT)
Now, read this passage a couple of times and see what jumps out to you. I have read this several times over the years and never noticed it… I have drawn out the idea that I need to love my wife but I never realized the end of this scripture. “If you don’t treat her as you should, your prayers will not be heard.”
Men: How is your prayer life?
I understand this passage may sound odd, why would my prayers not be heard, so I looked at a few other versions of this text.
“as heirs with you of the gracious gift of life, so that nothing will hinder your prayers” (NIV)
“show her honor as a fellow heir of the grace of life, so that your prayers will not be hindered” (NASB)
“as being heirs together of the grace of life; that your prayers be not hindered” (KJV)
If we want a successful prayer life that leads to a full life we must treat our wives with gentle tenderness and love. Our greatest opportunity to glorify God comes to us in our own homes. In regards to how to treat our wives the Bible makes it clear that as men we was must:
- Love them and not treat them harshly (Col. 3:19)
- Love them as we love ourselves (Eph. 5:33)
- Trust in her (Prov. 31:10)
- Praise her (Prov. 31:30)
Now, I realize this is a limited scope of how a man should treat his wife but it is pretty apparent that a Godly woman is of great value to man. There will be times when we don’t understand our wives. There will be trials that test our trust in them and they us but we must hold fast in love. If we love, trust, and praise them we will never go wrong. Our prayers will not be hindered and our relationships will flourish.
If you are struggling in your prayer life, look to your wife. How have you been treating her? Have you allowed her to be the woman God has called her to be or have you placed her on the back burner for your life’s goals? Learning to respect your wife will change your relationship with God.
If you make a mistake; fess up. If you are slacking in your household duties, man up. If you are harsh, apologize. Are you sinning behind her back; confess it. Whatever you are doing be sure to be a man. You are responsible for your own actions. You are to be a leader in your home. You are to:
“Be on the alert, stand firm in the faith, act like men, be strong. Let all that you do be done in love.” (1 Cor. 16:13-14)
Your prayers depend on your interactions with your wife. Love her as the Lord loved the church and you will be among the blessed.